Do You Have a Scarcity or Abundant Mindset?
I have been thinking a lot about mindset lately. It took me years to understand that we fundamentally have the power to attract things (good or bad) into our lives.
Five years ago, I hired a business coach and we did a lot of work around the subconscious mind and dug deep into what I was projecting (and attracting) into my life. To be honest, it felt a lot like ‘hocus pocus' work at the time, and I balked at the idea that the things we tell ourselves actually have the power to manifest into our daily lives.
I was so full of fear at the time, I couldn't grasp what he was trying to show me. Every week I would log onto our call ready to unleash all the things that went wrong. I was ready to complain about the money I wasn't making; my relationship problems at the time; and how I made a mistake leaving my full time career to pursue entrepreneurship. And each week he'd calmly look at me and say “Jess, why don’t you start with telling me what went right this week instead?”
Grrrrrrrrrr. That made me so mad! I wanted someone to validate all the reasons I was going to fail, but he never did. He stayed calm, cool, and collected and continued to remind me week after week that there is a reason I am being pulled to work for myself. And that my education, personal (and professional) experiences, and my ability to articulate the pain that others feel is a gift; and more importantly, that I would be doing the world a disservice if I didn't use it.
A GIFT? Jesus! What a beautiful reframe from my ‘negative Nancy' story that I made up in my head; how could I even argue with that??
Once again, I get to look back at experiences that my ego fights at the time, and realize my coach was 100% right. If we walk around the world looking for evidence that we don't belong; or that we won't get what we want; or that we will be rejected somehow; we will without a doubt, attract it.
When it comes to goals, making money, or attracting certain people into our lives, do you have a scarcity mindset, or an abundant one? Let me break them down for you:
A scarcity mindset is a belief system that operates from the assumption that resources (such as money, time, success, or opportunities) are limited and hard to obtain. People with a scarcity mindset often feel like there is "never enough"and may experience fear, competition, and anxiety about losing what they have. This mindset can lead to risk aversion, hoarding behaviors, short-term thinking, and difficulty celebrating others' success.
Common Traits of a Scarcity Mindset:
Focus on lack rather than possibility
Fear of taking risks or making financial investments
Comparison and competition with others
Short-term decision-making over long-term planning
Feeling stuck or believing success is out of reach
Fear of being alone or losing the relationships that they have
An abundance mindset is a belief system that operates from the understanding that there are more than enough resources, opportunities, and success to go around. People with an abundance mindset trust that growth, wealth, relationships, and happiness are not finite but can be expanded and shared.
Key Traits of an Abundance Mindset:
✅ Believes in possibilities – Sees setbacks as learning opportunities rather than failures.
✅ Focuses on growth – Looks for ways to expand wealth, skills, and opportunities.
✅ Celebrates others’ success – Understands that another person’s win doesn’t mean a personal loss.
✅ Long-term thinking – Makes strategic decisions that build lasting success.
✅ Gratitude-centered – Recognizes and appreciates what is already present.
Here's where this can get complicated:
The majority of people that come to work with me have developed an insecure attachment style as a result of the way they were raised. They were more often than not raised by a parent (s) that also had a scarcity mindset, or worse, one with an emotionally immature or narcissistic character. What that does to a child is that it instills an idea that we must hoard what we have in case we don't receive anymore. It projects that idea that money is difficult to make; weight is hard to lose; or that relationships are meant to be volatile and complicated.
The good news? We can change that.
Once we realize that we are fully in charge of what comes in (or out) of our lives; we can start looking at things as energy sources. Money is energy, weight loss is energy, setting goals is energy; relationships and sex are energy; and we get to use that to our advantage (or disadvantage) if we haven't yet done the work around it.
Just for today, what if you walked around the world like you already had what you wanted? What if you told yourself money was easy to make and spent the next 24 hrs in that mindset? What if you told yourself you were selected for that new job as a result of all your amazing qualities, and headed into work today with that mindset instead of living in fear that you might be let go? What if you visualized your most healthy looking body and stopped trying to get skinny and focused on how to feel your most energized and strong today?
What would you attract?
Please remember, your external environment is ALWAYS a reflection of how you feel about yourself on the inside; and whether you believe you can attract all the aforementioned things above or not, you will be right.
What will your choice be today?
For anyone who reads this today, let's all energetically commit to being abundant together and see what happens.
With love, care, & empowerment,
Jess